Coping with Anger During Your DivorceDivorce can dredge up negative emotions from both parties because marriages often end due to a conflict between spouses. Anger directed at the other spouse is a common emotion that divorcees may express. It may naturally subside as the former spouses have minimal interaction with each other. However, anger can persist with divorced parents, who are connected through the allocation of parental responsibilities. Anger can be a destructive emotion that you must address during and after your divorce.

Problems with Anger

The process of getting a divorce can cause you to feel depressed and anxious. Anger, in a way, is comforting because it allows you to blame your spouse for your negative emotions. Feeling some anger is natural and can be tempered. However, letting your anger grow out of control will hurt yourself and those around you:

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Marital Property Has Monetary, Sentimental ValueDivorcing spouses are required to divide their marital property as part of the settlement. It is important to accurately value all of your assets to ensure that you are getting an equitable share. There are tangible and intangible ways you can assign worth to assets, and understanding them is key to successfully negotiating your division of property. If the court is forced to decide on the division of property, it may not know the personal importance you place on assets that seem less valuable.  When assessing the value of your marital property, there are four questions that you should answer.

Which Properties Are Shared?

Before assigning values to your properties, you need to identify your marital properties that will be subject to division. Courts typically consider marital properties to be those that:

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Dealing with Post-Divorce GriefCompleting your divorce and moving on to the next stage of your life can cause a mix of emotions – some of them good. You may feel relief from marriage being over and excitement about your future. However, divorcees can be caught off guard by unexpected negative emotions. You feel refreshed and optimistic one day and depressed and doubtful the next. You may think, “Divorce is what I wanted, so why do I feel sad?” Even when a divorce frees you from an unhappy marriage, it is natural to mourn the end of your marriage and fear the changes in your life. Understanding these emotions is one of the final steps in healing from your divorce.

Common Emotions

How you react after a divorce may be similar to the commonly known five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Rather than the death of a person, you are experiencing the death of your marriage, which was the most important relationship in your life to this point. However, your post-divorce grief does not always follow an ordered flow chart. People’s divorces differ, so their emotions differ, as well. Common negative feelings after a divorce include:

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Divorce Appeals Rare for a ReasonAfter an Illinois court issues its final judgement on a divorce settlement, either party has the right to appeal the decision. However, many attorneys will caution you against appealing your divorce. You may want to appeal your divorce settlement in order to get a more favorable deal, but an appellate court will reject your appeal if that is the only reason. The purpose of a divorce appeal is to prove the trial court erred in its interpretation or application of the law. Divorce appeals are costly and successful only in rare cases.

Process

In Illinois, a person has 30 days to file an appeal after the court rules on the divorce settlement. The appellant must write a detailed brief, explaining why the lower court’s judgement should be overturned. In some cases, the appellate court may allow oral arguments. Once all the evidence has been presented, the appellate court will decide whether to uphold the original ruling, overturn it or send the case back to the lower court.

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Child Death Affect on Marriage and DivorceThe death of a child is a nightmare scenario for parents. The grief and shock can be more intense than what results from the death of anyone else. Because the emotional damage is so great, some people believe that a majority of parents get divorced after their child’s death. Logic says that losing the child breaks a bond between spouses that can never be repaired. However, researchers have not found statistical evidence of an increased divorce rate among parents whose children have died. Psychologists believe that the way parents grieve can create conflict in a marriage, but it does not necessarily cause divorce.

Expressing Grief

Both parents will experience grief after the death of their child, but each may have a different way of showing it. The types of grief are usually divided by gender:

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