Category Archives: Divorce

Perils of Dating Too Soon After DivorceDating after divorce would be simpler if there was a set amount of time after which you knew you were ready to start a new relationship. Emotionally moving on from your marriage is a process, not a time period. Divorcees create arbitrary waiting periods because they know they should not immediately jump into a new relationship. However, you cannot predict how long your emotional recovery will take. Entering into a relationship too soon after a divorce can lead to impulsive decisions and unfortunate consequences.

Still Recovering

Divorcees may feel the desire to start dating again before they are emotionally ready for a new relationship. Dating fills a void left by the divorce and distracts you from addressing your underlying emotions. During a new relationship, you can tell that you have not moved past your divorce if:

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Avoid Feeling Guilty During DivorceThere is an important difference between feeling regret and feeling guilt during your divorce. With regret, you are thinking about the mistakes that lead to your divorce. It is best not to linger on regrets, but identifying them can help you learn from your divorce and heal. With guilt, you are blaming yourself for the divorce occurring, even though such a feeling is often inaccurate and unproductive. People who believe they are to blame for their divorces may want to punish themselves during the divorce negotiations. Divorcees must separate feelings of guilt from how they reach a settlement on financial issues and the allocation of parental responsibilities.

Reasons for Guilt

It helps to identify why you feel guilty when you are blaming yourself for your divorce. Understanding the source of your guilt allows you to rationalize whether it is fair to say you are at fault for the divorce. There are various reasons people may blame themselves for their divorces, including:

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Importance of Filing First in Out-of-State DivorceLong periods of separation can precede a couple’s decision to divorce. Spouses might obtain a legal separation or simply choose to try living apart before they decide on divorce. The separation will have little effect on the divorce process if the spouses live in the same area. In fact, it can make the dissolution of the marriage easier because Illinois presumes irreconcilable differences when a couple lives apart for at least six months. However, living in a different county or state changes where a spouse is allowed to file for divorce. The location of a divorce case can influence how it is settled.

Residency Requirements

Spouses can file for divorce in any state, as long as one of them is a permanent resident. Each state has a residency requirement in order to qualify to file for divorce there. For instance, Illinois requires a person to live in the state for 90 days. When each spouse qualifies for residency in a different state, the divorce hearings will take place in whichever state the divorce is first filed in. If the other spouse files for divorce in his or her own state afterwards, his or her filing may be dismissed because there is already an active divorce case.

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Complications When Moving After DivorceGetting a divorce is like hitting the reset button on your life. Without your marriage, you are more free to decide what kind of person you are and what you want to do. For some, the best way to start a new life is to move to a new town. There are many reasons why people relocate after divorce:

  • They are pursuing new jobs or careers;
  • They want to distance themselves from their former spouses;
  • They want to move closer to family or friends;
  • It is easier to redefine themselves in a place where people do not know them; and
  • They are finally free to move to a location where they have long wanted to live.

However, moving to a new town is a difficult adjustment for anyone, let alone someone who has just ended his or her marriage. Before deciding to move after your divorce, you should be aware of the complications that come with it.

Parenting Issues

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Obtaining Relief for Attorney Fees During DivorceWhen going through a divorce, the financial resources that each party has can be used to his or her advantage. Having available money allows a party to hire and retain a skilled divorce attorney to help during the case. Conversely, a party who lacks financial resources may worry about his or her ability to pay attorney fees. Spouses with less money can be at a disadvantage in hiring the attorneys they want and being able to keep them during the divorce. Illinois lawmakers do not want unequal financial resources to determine which spouse receives a better divorce settlement. Thus, they added a section to the Illinois Marriage and Dissolution of Marriage Act that allows a spouse to request that the other spouse help pay for attorney fees.

Leveling the Playing Field

Illinois’ divorce law states that a spouse may request temporary relief from the other spouse for interim attorney fees and costs during a divorce case. The purpose of the law is to ensure that both spouses have equal access to legal representation during the divorce process. Thus, a court will grant temporary relief only if it believes the requesting spouse needs money to pay for adequate legal resources. Considerations include:

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