The Worst Mistakes to Make During a Divorce

 Posted on May 16, 2013 in Divorce

Divorce can often be very stressful. The stress can make us make illogical and dangerous mistakes. People often fail to prepare themselves emotionally for a divorce and they can have trouble controlling their emotions, which can lead to serious mistakes during the divorce process. A recent article in the Huffington Post lists the following five worst mistakes people make in a divorce. 1. Refusing to throw in the towel. While it is often a good idea to do everything you can to save your marriage, you need to know when to give up. If your spouse insists on a divorce, throwing in the towel is smart. You can’t save your marriage alone. 2. Giving in to withdrawal pains. It may be hard to move on with your life after the divorce. A person may experience “withdrawal pains”, and send constant e-mails and texts to their former spouse. This is not advisable, however, because your ex might see this as harassment, which is illegal. 3. Dating too early. Although you may feel lonely after a divorce and want to meet someone new, dating too early is ill-advised. You are most likely going through many emotions, and the new person in your life will probably just make the healing process harder. You may also make bad decisions while you are not yet fully yourself. 4. Putting the kids in the middle. Sometimes parents talk trash about the other parent, or make it hard for the other parent to see the kids. However, when you drag your kids into the divorce conflict, everyone loses, especially your children, who may suffer depression and anger as a result. 5. Neglecting to get help. Divorce is never an easy process. You should never go through it alone. By talking to someone close to you, it is possible to avoid the emotional pain that often comes with divorce. Don’t make the mistake of not getting help. If you are considering divorce, contact a capable Illinois family law attorney today.    

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NFL Player Leroy Hill Faces Domestic Violence Charges

 Posted on May 13, 2013 in Family Law

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Financial Mistakes during Divorce

 Posted on May 08, 2013 in Divorce

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Is a Prenup Necessary?

 Posted on May 03, 2013 in Divorce

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Dr. Phil: Children’s Needs during a Divorce

 Posted on April 29, 2013 in Divorce

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Orders of Protection

 Posted on April 26, 2013 in Family Law

Order of Protection is the legal term for a “restraining order,” which is a document signed by a judge that states that a specified person must stop a certain behavior and stay away from the person who asked for the order. The person who asked for the order is the petitioner and the person who is served with the order of protection is called the respondent. Filing a petition for an Order of Protection is the first step in getting an order of protection. In the petition, the petitioner must state why they are asking for the order against the defendant. Specific “incidents of abuse” are also noted in a section of the petition that describes past events that have led to a need for an Order of Protection. After consideration of the petition, the judge will choose to grant and Order of Protection or not to grant one. There are three different types of Orders of Protection that can be granted, including:

1. Emergency Order of Protection

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Divorce Alimony in Illinois

 Posted on April 22, 2013 in Alimony / Maintenance

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Legal Separation | Kane County family lawer

 Posted on April 18, 2013 in Divorce

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Michael Jordan Ready For Second Marriage

 Posted on April 14, 2013 in Divorce

Michael Jordan and his longtime girlfriend Yvette Prieto applied for a marriage license in Palm Beach, Florida. According to the license, the couple has until May 9 to get married. The basketball legend has been married once before. He got married in 1989 to Juanita Vanoy but they divorced in 2006. During the marriage, the couple had two sons and a daughter. However, Jordan cannot celebrate completely. He is currently fighting a paternity suit from a woman named Pamela Smith. She claims that Jordan is the father of her 16-year-old son. According to this article from ABC Chicago, this claim was made once before and it was “conclusively established” that Jordan is not the father. His lawyer wrote in a statement to the Associated Press that “Public records show that the paternity of the child was established in a prior case in this same court many years ago and that Michael Jordan is not the father. He also filed a counterclaim seeking sanctions for the false claims made against him.” Smith divorced from her husband in 2003. The divorce document claims that the marriage produced one child, and Smith signed this to be true. Jordan’s lawyer cited this document in his statement, also writing that “It is unfortunate that well-known figures are the target of these kinds of claims. Michael Jordan will vigorously defend himself and his reputation.” Michael Jordan played on the Chicago Bulls from 1984-1993, and again from 1995-1999. During this time he led them to six NBA championships. He is also the majority owner and head of basketball operations for the Charlotte Bobcats. Family law covers many different areas—from marriage and divorce to child custody and paternity suits. If you’re currently dealing with any family law aspect, our Kane County law firm can help. Contact us today to speak with a lawyer.  

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Common Mistakes in a Divorce

 Posted on April 11, 2013 in Divorce

There are many professionals who deal with the process of divorce, and who are interested in helping during the transition.  Therapists try to deal with the emotional aspects of a divorce.  Financial advisers and accountants try to deal with the implications of the division of property.  Lawyers can help you with the whole process on a more general level, and make sure that all aspects of a divorce are done according to the law.  Having support is important, but there are more steps you can take to stop some of the common mistakes during divorce.

One common mistake of people who are thinking of divorcing their spouse is being too rash.  Just like you wouldn't buy something major without shopping around, you also shouldn't rush into filing for divorce.  The decision to divorce can be ruled by emotions, but it should be a well thought out decision.

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