How Wedding Choices Can Hurt Your Marriage

 Posted on August 01, 2018 in Marriage

A wedding is a landmark occasion in the lives of yourself and your spouse. A good wedding is a happy memory that you will share, but can a bad wedding spell doom for your marriage? Researchers have discovered that some factors in a wedding correlate with a higher rate of divorce, including:

• How much you spend on your wedding; and
• The wedding date you pick.

There are too many factors leading up to a divorce to definitively say that a wedding caused a divorce. However, there are ways that your wedding can potentially cause marital strife.

Cost of Wedding

Weddings have become increasingly extravagant and expensive affairs. Young couples can have ambitious ideas about a dream wedding that includes exotic locations and ample amenities for their guests. Having a wedding that matches your expectations is a good way to start your marriage, but there can be consequences:

• You may go into debt in order to pay for the expensive wedding; and
• An over-the-top wedding may become the high point of your marriage, instead of just the starting point.

Starting your marriage in debt puts an immediate strain on your relationship and may limit your plans for a life together. Was having your dream wedding worth not being able to buy a home together? Does the rest of your marriage seem like a struggle compared to your wedding day? If you have regrets about the cost of your wedding, you may also start having regrets about your marriage.

Wedding Date

Choosing a holiday or a quirky date for your wedding may hold a special meaning for you, but it can also make the planning more difficult:

• Venues may be quickly booked on popular dates;
• The venue host may charge more for a popular date; and
• Guests may have schedule conflicts on your wedding date.

Feeling disappointed about your wedding may create uncertainty about your marriage. Friends and family show their support for your marriage by attending the wedding. You may interpret their absences as a disapproval, even if there are other reasons.

Weddings and Divorce 

The strength of your marriage should be based on more than your wedding day. Feeling disappointed or regretful about your wedding sets a bad tone for your marriage, but having an ideal wedding will not protect you from the possibility of divorce. A Kane County divorce attorney at Goostree Law Group can lead you through the divorce process. To schedule a free consultation, call 630-584-4800.

Source:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/why-bad-looks-good/201807/how-your-wedding-date-impacts-marital-success