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Avoiding an Addiction Relapse During Your DivorceAddiction comes in many forms, whether it involves alcohol, drugs, sex or other excessive behavior. People dealing with addiction can become abusive towards the ones they love and betray their trust. It is commendable if you have recovered from an addiction, but your spouse does not have to forgive you for your past actions. You may end up divorcing despite your efforts to improve yourself. While this may be a devastating turn of events, you cannot let yourself relapse into your addiction.

Addiction and Divorce

Your marriage and your family may have been your primary motivations during your recovery. You want to be someone that your spouse and children can rely on, and that idea gave you the strength to seek help and change yourself. The divorce takes away your spouse as a pillar of support. It is also possible that the divorce court will view your history of addiction as a potential danger to your children, which could affect the allocation of parental responsibilities. Divorce is a stressful and sometimes frightening process for anyone. You may be tempted to return to your addiction because it feels comfortable and will take your mind off your anxiety. A relapse would be disastrous for yourself and your divorce. It would likely limit your parenting time with your children and distract you from what you need to accomplish in your divorce.

Preventing Relapse

You should realize the risk of relapse during your divorce and take steps to protect your health:

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Divorcing Someone with Addiction ProblemsYour spouse’s addiction can take a toll on your marriage and eventually lead to divorce. You may feel guilty about leaving your spouse when he or she needs help, but your own health and safety are also important. You spouse may:

  • Betray your trust in order to feed his or her addiction;
  • Squander your money to pay for the addiction;
  • Be less physically or emotionally intimate with you; 
  • Behave erratically or violently; or
  • Put you and your children in dangerous situations.

Your spouse’s addiction will affect how you settle your divorce and what your spouse is likely to receive from the agreement.

Parental Rights

Your spouse may have a limited allocation of parental responsibilities if he or she is still dealing with addiction. A divorce court must consider each parent’s fitness when dividing parenting time. A person with addiction problems may be an unfit parent because he or she may:

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How Divorce Can Lead to AddictionPeople who are going through or have completed a divorce often turn to comforting activities to help them cope. Divorce is a significant source of stress, anxiety and depression. Divorcees are experiencing a life-altering process with an uncertain outcome. The stress increases if the two parties are hostile and combative with each other. Thus, it seems more important to be able to enjoy themselves when they have free time. However, overindulgence can lead to addiction, even for those without a history of addictive behavior. What started as a coping mechanism becomes a compulsion that is difficult to break.

Types of Addiction

People most commonly associate addiction with alcohol, tobacco products and drugs. All of the them have addictive properties and can become a chemical dependency for the users. Substance abuse is also directly linked to health complications and changes in behavior. However, addiction is broader than substance abuse, including:

Illinois divorce attorney, Illinois family law attorneyIf you and your spouse find yourselves constantly fighting, unable to agree about how you spend your money or how you run your household, or either of you has considered committing infidelity or even gone through with an affair, you might think your marriage is over. Sometimes, it is. But other times, a marriage can emerge stronger than it was before if both partners are willing to work together to fix what went wrong. It is important to consider certain strategies you can use to repair your marriage. Remember, fixing your marriage will require significant input from both partners and sometimes, divorce is inevitable even when a couple works hard to avoid it. If your marriage falls into this category, do not think of the divorce as a personal failure. Sometimes, a couple simply is not compatible.

Seek Professional Counseling

One of the best ways to get a handle on the actual issues at play in your marriage and advice about how to overcome them is to schedule a few sessions with a licensed marriage counselor. Marriage counseling is a type of therapy where a couple works with a professional counselor to identify and work through the problems that are plaguing their marriage, much like an individual with other mental health issues works with a psychological counselor to work through his or her own personal problems. Couples can have sessions with a marriage counselor together or individuals can meet with the counselor alone.

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