We all know how challenging interpersonal relationships can be. Unfortunately, difficult situations like divorce and child-related legal proceedings can bring out the worst in people, making such relationships even more trying. Thanks to modern technology, individuals are more readily accessible to one another and connected like never before. Thus, it is easier than ever for your soon-to-be ex-spouse to lash out and send an angry text or email, tempting you to respond in a similar manner. Doing so, however, can be detrimental to your case, so it is important to keep your focus on moving forward.
Responding Is Not Always Necessary
When you receive hostile communication from your former partner or your child’s other parent, keep in mind that the email or text has no power over you unless you allow it to have this power. Angry messages may be an attempt by the sender to vent or relieve his or her own frustration, or they may be intended to rile up your emotions. Before deciding how to respond, step back and determine if a response is even required or appropriate.
See Through the Hostility
Although it is easier said than done, you need to break down the email or text to determine what actual issues, if any, are being raised. Your spouse may be attempting to address a legitimate concern, but he or she has buried the problem in vitriol and emotion. If you cannot decipher what issue needs to be addressed, responding is probably pointless and unnecessary.