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Kane County divorce attorneysAre you the type of person who is quick to share photos and experiences with your friends and followers on Facebook or Instagram? Social media networks like these can certainly be fun and help keep distant family members up to date with each other’s lives. When you are in the midst of a divorce, however, social media can be an unexpected source of danger. It is important to keep a few things in mind if you intend to stay on social media as your marriage is coming to an end.

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Part of the reason that social media sites are so attractive for users is that they allow a person to present a carefully managed version of themselves to their friends and followers. Very few users post embarrassing photos or stories about themselves; instead, they focus on the high points. The problem with social media as it relates to divorce, however, is the lack of context.

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Watching a friend or family member suffer through a divorce and all the things that come with it is difficult. Sometimes it is hard to know just what to say or do. However, according to the Huffington Post, there are a few things that you should never do when it comes to helping someone come with divorce. Theresa Remain Neutral You may have known your friend since childhood or she may be a new acquaintance. Whatever the case may be, remember that you are only hearing half of the story. You have to be careful not to take sides in the situation. You do not want to condone any wrongdoing. Don’t be afraid to let her know that you are her friend but that you don’t intend to choose sides.  Don’t Trash the Ex You should be there to listen to what your friend is going through. However, you should avoid trash talking the soon to be ex. Firstly, you are not in the position to judge and you do not want to make matters worse. Secondly, if you declare it open season to say all of the terrible things that you can think of about the ex, what happens if they decided to reconcile the relationship? That can lead to some awkward feelings.  You are not a Lawyer Even if you have been through a divorce yourself, you are not the divorce guru and you are not qualified to give legal advice. You don’t want to mislead your friend or family member when it comes to something that is so important. If your friend has questions about the legal process, refer him or her to call an experienced Kane County family law attorney that can provide them with the answers that they are looking for. That is what a good friend should do.
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family law 2 LeeviDivorce can often be very stressful. The stress can make us make illogical and dangerous mistakes. People often fail to prepare themselves emotionally for a divorce and they can have trouble controlling their emotions, which can lead to serious mistakes during the divorce process. A recent article in the Huffington Post lists the following five worst mistakes people make in a divorce. 1. Refusing to throw in the towel. While it is often a good idea to do everything you can to save your marriage, you need to know when to give up. If your spouse insists on a divorce, throwing in the towel is smart. You can’t save your marriage alone. 2. Giving in to withdrawal pains. It may be hard to move on with your life after the divorce. A person may experience “withdrawal pains”, and send constant e-mails and texts to their former spouse. This is not advisable, however, because your ex might see this as harassment, which is illegal. 3. Dating too early. Although you may feel lonely after a divorce and want to meet someone new, dating too early is ill-advised. You are most likely going through many emotions, and the new person in your life will probably just make the healing process harder. You may also make bad decisions while you are not yet fully yourself. 4. Putting the kids in the middle. Sometimes parents talk trash about the other parent, or make it hard for the other parent to see the kids. However, when you drag your kids into the divorce conflict, everyone loses, especially your children, who may suffer depression and anger as a result. 5. Neglecting to get help. Divorce is never an easy process. You should never go through it alone. By talking to someone close to you, it is possible to avoid the emotional pain that often comes with divorce. Don’t make the mistake of not getting help. If you are considering divorce, contact a capable Illinois family law attorney today.    

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