Rebuilding Your Self-Confidence During Divorce

 Posted on February 03, 2019 in Divorce

Getting a divorce can ultimately lead to a more fulfilling life, but the immediate effect can be a blow to your self-confidence. It is common to feel like you failed in your marriage and question whether you can create other meaningful relationships. While you may struggle to move beyond this self-doubt, there are ways that you can boost your confidence during and after your divorce:

1. Remember Your Strengths: You are dwelling on the failures in your life, ignoring the many successes you have had, both professional and personal. Try writing out a list of your accomplishments to remind yourself that you are a strong and capable person. Successes could be getting a college degree, starting a job, or raising your children. Even the fact that you were married was an accomplishment because your positive qualities were enough for someone to want to marry you.
2. Talk to Your Support System: Your depression during your divorce can skew your memories of your past accomplishments and your sense of self-worth. A family member or close friend can tell you about the things they love about you. A divorce coach or therapist can help you look at your life more objectively and realize that you are being too hard on yourself.
3. Forgiving Yourself: You want to be able to blame someone for your divorce in order to understand why it happened. Though you may be angry at your spouse, you likely blame yourself for not being able to save your marriage. Part of you may also feel guilty because you believe you quit your marriage. Divorce is a common practice and does not make you a failure. You may have made mistakes, but you understand them and can avoid repeating them in future relationships.
4. Planning Ahead: If you are not satisfied with your life, then your divorce is your chance to change it. Set career goals and figure out how you will reach them. Commit yourself to a healthier lifestyle with more exercise and a better diet. Become the best parent that you can at a time when your children need your support. There is life after your divorce, and you can plan for how you will be successful.

Contact a St. Charles Divorce Attorney

The process of rebuilding your confidence starts during your divorce. Working with a Kane County divorce attorney and divorce coach at Goostree Law Group will help you feel confident and have a clear understanding of what you need from your divorce. To schedule a free consultation, call 630-584-4800.

Source:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/constructive-wallowing/201608/7-ways-get-your-self-esteem-back-after-divorce